It’s Your Fault

I’m still under the weather today so I’m sharing a post from Coach Ryan, PeakFAST owner and my coach/boss.


If you look, feel, and think the exact way you’d like to, it’s your fault.

If you don’t, it’s your fault too.

You shouldn’t want it any other way.  When you make it your fault, you take ownership.

We do understand that there are genetic limitations as to how we look, how high our performance can get, etc.

We ignore the umbrella of things we can control.

In doing so, we rationalize and justify while using external factors to serve for blame.

You don’t have the:

• time
• money
• don’t want to give up (___)
• knowledge

The role ‘victim of circumstance’ feels safe. It also liberates us from the dissonance between things we want to achieve and what we actually do.

This burying your head in the sand allow us to save the admission that it’s not a priority.

There is a time when fitness might not be a priority.  And that’s okay.  But at least have the gall to call yourself out.

Even then I’d argue something could still be done.

Ambivalence.

We want two things that appear to be competing demands — like how to get fit while maintaining a healthy social life.

Ambivalence is the genesis of failure to change.  You’re holding two ideas separate in your head and fail to find common ground, or never try.

Chunking ambivalence into manageable steps facilitates progress. Success is reliant on the accumulation of hundreds of smaller skills.

I’ve seen people with fitness, business, and financial success master a narrow window of skills.

If you think a single plan or program is going to ‘cure’ all your challenges you’re delusional, at best.

Master skills.  Skills you’re not good at.  To learn you must get feedback about what worked and what didn’t.

Remember…it doesn’t have to perfect, but it has to be consistent.

It saddens me that discipline has a negative connotation.

I think most view it as either a post-hoc punishment or intentional restriction.

  • You eat a cookie and repent on the treadmill.
  • A kid acts up in public, you make them to cut their own switch when you get home (which is sick in the head).
  • You intend to eat no sugar ever.

Discipline is about freedom and about saying yes as much as it is saying no.

Discipline differs from motivation because, well, no body is ever motivated to do something all the time. 

Discipline is just doing the damn thing before the desire is there.

Maybe you give it a shot, and before you know it things are moving and you feel the momentum.

If you want cake, it can be as simple as “not this time” or “I’ll see how I feel in 5-10-20 minutes”.

If you want to skip a workout, it’s just trying the first 10 minutes and then lobbing the question back up to your brain to reassess.

What can you do today?

1. Accept some fault.  Whether your in great shape or less-than-ideal shape, own it.
2. Figure out what your priorities are.
3. Think of common ground. Consider and decide what you’re willing to do.
4. Realize you have control and commit to practicing discipline.  When you don’t feel like doing the thing, just take the first small action toward it and see what happens after the initial impulse passes.

-Try working out for 10 minutes
-Stop eating before the plate is clean and see if you really want to finish
-Choose to make the purchase later

The more wins you chalk up, the better you’ll get at saying “not yet”.  It’s okay if you do want the chocolate cake 10 minutes later, but at least you made a logical choice instead of just going on a whim.

These small disruptions to our behaviors are how we can start to build new habits, new results, and new outcomes.

Lastly, I’d like to add you don’t have to be strict forever.  If you’ve lived out of balance, then you may need to live out of balance.

There isn’t stagnation.  We’re either getting better or worse.  How that’s judged is a scale created by you, not us.


We help people who are on the wrong side of their fitness/health scale. Let us know how we can help!

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