Just like our ‘client’ coaching program, our ‘coach’ coaching program is made up of lessons and habits that we learn and practice.
This last habit has not been an area of strength for me and one of the more challenging habits to keep consistent.
I’ve always been the type of person who did what was needed to get the job done. I work and have high expectations for myself.
So when things don’t as I expect them to, I can be tough on myself. And that tends to then have a ripple effect for me, the people around me, the situation, etc.
Having that detailed mindset and project management focus, I like to plan things out and know who is going to do what and when. But things happen and this doesn’t go exactly as planned.
Some times you can adjust with what gets thrown at you and other times you can’t. It just is what it is. That’s when it is the toughest for me to bounce back.
If I had this habit and the lessons to help reinforce these ideas…I probably would have had a lot less stress on some of my big projects!
Self-Kindness – Common Humanity – Mindfulness
Self-kindness is simply learning to be kind to yourself. It doesn’t mean making excuses for every crazy decision you’ve made. Work toward being less critical and judgmental of yourself.
When you truly give 100%, but the results aren’t exactly what you want or what you expect…cut yourself some slack and be kind. Figure out what you’ve learned and take that forward for the next time.
Would you treat another person the way you treat yourself in these situations?
As a coach, I try to leverage what I would say to a client and now say that to myself. I am the rookie role again after 20+ years so I am still learning…every day. I need to be kind as I learn and develop as a coach.
Common humanity is the realization that we are not alone. We all make mistakes, have bad days and face challenges.
When you understand this idea it helps avoid the ‘poor me’ mentality when things aren’t going as you planned.
Tap into the support you have to help you troubleshoot obstacles and find solutions.
Mindfulness makes an appearance here as well. We read and coach about this one a lot! Self-awareness and self-observation can help us identify where we need additional coaching and support without placing judgment.
Learning to be more self-compassionate helps develop me as a coach as well. When clients decide to begin the process of nutrition and fitness changes, it can be a stressful road.
Helping them learn the components of self-compassion will allow for positive growth and assessment throughout their journey. It isn’t always easy and there will be challenges.
Being kind to yourself, while still pushing yourself, is an important skill to develop and to practice…daily.
Precision Nutrition highlighted research that self-compassionate people:
- perform better
- are more resilient and able to bounce back faster
- are better able to take risks and be open to new experiences
- are more satisfied with life
- are psychologically healthier overall
- learn, grow, and develop more effectively
These are traits I want. What does that mean for me? More practice, practice, practice.
How self-compassionate are you? When you’re ready, reach out so we can chat.