Does your why make you cry?

Most people have changes that they’d like to make in their life. The world revolves around change. Things can get better with change.

​Why do you want to make changes in your life?

​​​A client shared with me last night that she was told that the why should make you cry. 

​Think about that for a second. What does that mean to you? 

​The reason for starting a change like this is typically a deeper reason than ‘I want to look better in my clothes’.

I want to have enough energy to play around on the floor with my grandkids.

​I want to feel confident as I speak in front of an audience.

​I want to live an active lifestyle and travel the world. 

​I want to get more sleep so that I wake each morning feeling ready to tackle my day. 

​The 5 whys exercise can help you dive deeper to find YOUR reason for change. Keeping this reason close to you will help on those days where it’s freezing outside and you don’t want to get out of bed.

Use this reason to take the action. You’ll always feel better after the workout!

​This exercise is a simple tool originally used by Toyota that really helps understand what the motivations and underlying values are in a desired change. There is no right or wrong answer here.

​So you state your goal and then follow up with the question “Why” five times.

​As an example:

What do you want to accomplish?
I want to lose 30 pounds.

​Why
 do you want to lose 30 pounds?
Because I want to fit into the smaller jeans in my closet.

​Why
 do you want to fit into the small jeans?
Because I don’t like how I feel, and I’ll feel good if I can fit into those jeans.

​Why
 will fitting into the jeans make you feel good?
Because I’ll feel like I’m in control of the choices in my life instead of feeling like I’m spiraling out of control.

​Why
 do you want to be in control of the choices in your life?
Because I’ve always been on top of things and my self-confidence is really low right now.

​Why
 is a high self-confidence important to you?
Because I can go after what want, not care what others think, and feel like I can manage the stress in my life.

​Wow…that’s a lot of information with just a few questions!

​We hear similar stories all of the time as client drive into their values.

​It’s not just about losing fat, it’s about regaining the harmony between actions and values.

​Between YOUR actions and values.

​If you know your why or if you are looking to uncover it…please reach out. We can find that deeper reason and get you moving toward your goals so you have your best year yet!

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